5 things that will start changing the way you interact with Woman

This is the first post. And this post comes after a year and a half, dwelling in content and field experiences. My journey and experiences are not important. I will not go through the usual BS introduction of how I used to be an average Joe with poor social skills etc etc...and now have a 100 lays. No. That's not me. And trust me, that's not you. You are not average. But here's a list of 5 things, which I thought were really helpful in changing my perspective on social dynamics and how to interact with woman. And I hope it takes you one step further from where you are today.

1. If you have read "The Game", don't treat it like a Bible. 

Neil Strauss did not mean for it to be a bible. If you haven't read it, go straight to his second book "The Rules of the Game". Again, this is not a bible. Read it, learn some basic self improvement techniques from the book. And then drop it.

2. Recognize that meeting woman is about effort. 

If meeting woman is a problem, ask yourself:

- "when was the last time I took serious effort to go out there and interact with people (men and woman) socially"
- "Is my social circle status quo? Shrinking? or Growing?"
- "Is there a gender balance"

Then..Act! If you are not an asshole. You will be surprised how willingly your guy friends or girlfriends will introduce you to their girl friends.

3. Attraction is a function of both technique and pheromones

I have heard time and again guys say "I believe in letting nature take its own course". Let me start by saying that there is a fair statement. And it is absolutely fair if one does not end up (1) lamenting in regret "..I really like her...but she doesn't like me..." or (2) using it as an excuse to stay shy and not go all out to win her over. My point is, if you have an objective in mind i.e. getting to know a lady better and hopefully date her successfully...then, you need to act. Nature does not always work towards your personal goals.

4. Swap internet porn for more fulfilling online reads

Keep a balance between 20% PUA web content, 20% Mens Magazine (Men's Health for example), 20% News (Straits Times, CNA...whatever), 20% Entertainment news / Fashion Blogs (Satorialist etc.) and most importantly...20% on things which interest you. Here's why:

Internet porn twists reality. It could help relieve once in awhile, but find it hard to believe that it has any real tangible value. Reading PUA type stuff does help. Techniques aside, it may also help boost confidence. Learn from it, practise it and refine your skills in interacting with Woman. But keep it to a minimum and don't ever let it consume you. Stay ahead by reading up on what's happening around the world. It's not all serious news and politics. Have a balance by being well informed about stuff most woman are interested in (but which few men are). Knowing a thing or two about the latest celebrity gossip or fashion trend could help seed conversations. At the same time, constantly build on what interest you. It could be soccer news, diving, art...whatever. You get the idea...

5. Every woman is different

That is why openers and routines do not work the same way all the time. Most guys who have read The Game or other basic PUA materials fall into the trap of thinking "I have a toolkit of tricks which i can use...now..let me run this routine". Granted. This actually works! But it will most definitely now deliver a high hit rate. To improve your hit rate, everything should be customized and congruent with her personality type. And this is something that can be observed in a fairly short period of time. Thereafter, approach, kino routines, conversation topics, date ideas, physical intimacy should all be customized...to her. And...there's help out there. There's fundamentally 8 types of woman out there. Once you have mastered cold read, you will find that you will understand woman much better and hence be able to connect with them much more easily. A good way to start would be to look up Vin DiCarlo's Pandora's Box