I was with a bunch of friends out at Spice along River Valley after some drinks. Mid way through supper, a set of 3 walked in an settled at a table behind us. My girlfriend spotted that among the 3, there's a cutie. Let's call her "Blue" since she was wearing a blue top. (I am trying to stay away from community norms calling girls by HB7,8,9s)
So blue sat down with two of her friends at a table behind us and a couple of us turned to look. This is actually where it all starts. I knew i was not gonna approach as my girlfriend was there. But there's never any harm sneaking a look since she was the one who pointed out that Blue was cute.
Pre-set Observations:
- Both her friends are average
- There's no opportunity to quickly seat down with them cos the last vacant seat (table for 4) was being blocked
- Girls are fairly young and most definitely under 25 - Testers :) Go for indirect openers. If they are late twenties, direct game would work better...imho
- 3 sets are perfect for solo approaches as you will eventually end up in a group of 4 which is the maximum group size of most social conversations. After awhile, you easily isolate into 2-2s, you and the target
So i had no intention for approach but Ted was pretty keen. He didn't say so however, not until we actually stepped out of the prata shop. He said he was gonna get her umber. By the time we were stepping out, the 3-set has actually move to another table, leaving a 4th seat vacant by the side. I thought that was really helpful in terms of logistics. Further, we had 2 girls in our group so that's fairly good social proof as well. I thought it wasn't gonna be too tough. He is most likely gonna hit it. Ted asked us to stand outside but within visible range for social proof which we did. I thought that was quite smart. And then he approached and got her number in about 1.5 mins.
I was able to make a couple of observations and I thought I would share this so that the next time you guys do an approach, this experience could come in handy.
In-set Observations:
1. Number closing is way over rated. Always aim for a day 2 close. But Number Closes are good practise. Way to go Ted!
2. He was standing throughout the full set. I thought he should have taken a sit right after the opener for rapport and make it less "pickup-ish"
3. Too fast! I didn't hear the conversations fully but clearly, in 1.5 mins, there isn't much attraction you can build. Had he taken a seat, I thought he could have spent a couple more minutes to build attraction and rapport - think M3 model.
4. He gave Blue his phone after asking for her number and continued talking with her friends. Which i thought was a great idea. You gotta keep the whole set busy. That really helps take pressure off the entire set and minimize the chances of Blue seeking approval from her friends. I thought that was a rather good control over the set.
5. One of the things which i learnt through experience is that girls tend to give fake numbers, especially when there isn't genuine rapport in a cold approach or a day 2 being set up yet. I myself do that all the time when insurance agents bug me for my number....change the last digit ;) So...trick here which i do most of the time after getting a number is to call her immediately and lead her into the next phase (when you do actually call her). She will be right infront of you and her phone will be ringing...if it doesn't...well you know you have a fake. If it buzzes but she doesn't pick it up, say "pick up....please" in a cute un-threatening tone. Some facial expression here might help. If she's cool, she will play along. If not..move on and pretent to talk to her "Hey Blue...how have you been...thank god its not your voice mail" CF [cocky funny] really does help here. SO you set it up such that the next time you call her, the first thing that runs through her mind would be your cute mischievous fun...and not some random stranger. This is in a way NLP as well...
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